Hey Reader!

Arguably one of the most important things you can do in your early childhood classroom is build a strong connection with each child—and help children learn how to connect with one another.

Before children can fully engage in learning, they need to know that they are safe, valued, and cared for. Here are a few simple ways to build those connections at every age:

Infants & Toddlers

1. Respond to their needs.​
When a baby cries, pick them up. When they're hungry, feed them. When they're tired, help them rest. When a toddler needs comfort, offer it. You’re probably think “duh, Monica, of course I do that.” These everyday caregiving moments may seem routine, but they are actually building the foundation for trust, security, and attachment. A child who knows, "My teacher will take care of me," is ready to explore and learn.

2. Get down and play!​
Talk, sing, smile, imitate their sounds, and get on the floor with them. Follow their lead and show genuine interest in what they're doing. Those simple back-and-forth interactions build relationships while also supporting language and social development. And let's be honest—there's nothing quite like a toddler's giggle to brighten your day!

Twos

1. Let them do it "myself!"​
Two-year-olds are discovering that they can do things on their own—and they are often very excited to prove it! Give them opportunities to pour their own water, put away toys, wash their hands, or choose between two activities. Offer just enough help to keep them successful, then celebrate their efforts. Independence builds confidence.

2. Be a curiosity partner.​
Two-year-olds are natural explorers. Instead of always directing their discoveries, join them! What happens when we mix these colors? Where did that bug go? What do you hear outside? When you slow down and wonder alongside them, you're strengthening your relationship while helping them discover the joy of learning.

Threes, Fours & Fives

1. Create connection rituals.​
Develop a simple routine that helps each child feel seen and welcomed. Maybe it's a special handshake, a morning greeting, a high-five, or a few minutes of one-on-one play. Eye contact, presence, touch, and playfulness can make a powerful difference, especially for children who may need a little extra connection before they're ready to participate. (See ConsciousDiscipline.com for more on this)

2. Listen to their stories.​
Preschoolers have BIG stories to tell! They want to tell you about their dog, their grandma, what happened at the grocery store, and what they had for breakfast—all before they get to the “important” stuff!

Make time to listen. Ask questions. Remember the details they share. You'll learn what makes them laugh, what worries them, and what matters most to them.

And when children know that you genuinely want to hear their stories, they learn something even more important:

"My teacher sees me. My teacher knows me. My teacher cares about me."

That's the kind of connection that creates a classroom where children can truly flourish.

(It’s also the beginning of learning that God sees me. God knows me. God cares about me.)